Did your mom ever tell you that you were special? Did she hang your pictures up on the fridge? Did your dad tell you that you could do anything you wanted if you just set your mind to it?
Maybe you are special. But you know what? So are a lot of other people. I’m not kidding. Have you spent any time on this thing the kids these days are calling the “interweb”? There is so much talent out there it’s not even funny.
If you’re a writer, photographer, designer, content creator, or purveyor of fine video content, it’s a little daunting. You may have been hot stuff in your 5th grade story contest, but this is the world wide web, baby. You’re not playing with the farm team anymore.
It should scare you a little bit. Spend some time on the ubiquitous amateur photo and art sites, read some of the better blogs out there, get a read on the competition. Many of them are better than you at what you do, and they’re not even professionals. They have day jobs as statisticians and nail technicians, whatever the hell that means.
Am I talking to myself? Absolutely. There are some people out there that I just can’t help wishing I could be when I grow up. I remember one time – one shameful time – I watched a special effects video a kid put together on his home computer and I just walked away from the screen with angry tears in my eyes. That flipping kid wasn’t even out of high school yet, and I had spent four years getting my BA in Communications with a Radio & TV production concentration. I flat out did not have the skills to do what he had done. I was so pissed. That’s probably because I felt entitled.
Not anymore. Now I just work harder. I work longer. There’s no time left in my day for things like TV. Or how about video games? Man, how many years of my life have I spent chasing down a sense of virtual accomplishment at the business end of a rendered weapon. At the expense of real accomplishment. The clearer my goals become, the more stuff I push out of my schedule to make room to pursue them.
For example, I’m writing a blog post on Saturday afternoon. Who reads blogs on Saturday? Not many people. You can look at a stats chart for just about any website and see the dip on the weekend. But it doesn’t matter. I want to be writing every day, or as close to it as I can be. I want to develop my following and my knowledge. I want people to find my content because it’s searchable and interesting. I want to be seen as an expert.
And that’s the point. None of us live in a small town world anymore. We live in a world where the bar is constantly raised by people we’ve never met. Not just people in New York, or Los Angeles, but people in St. Louis and Omaha and Aukland and Windhoek for all I know. (Windhoek is the capital of Namibia. Don’t feel bad if you had to look it up. I did too.)
Remember when everybody told you to get a college education to succeed in your career? Remember when you discovered that now that everyone else has a college education, you’re not ahead of the game, you’re just on par? Well this is just like that. Expert is the new normal. Talented people have more tools at their disposal to make their work get noticed and make a living doing what they love than ever before. And they’re out there doing it while you’re eating Fritos and watching a Chuck marathon. (It’s a great show, but SNAP OUT OF IT, MAN!!)
Mediocrity is just so…mediocre. If you want to coast in life, you can probably get by, but I’ve tried it and the results are (unsurprisingly) not very exciting. If you want a life less ordinary, a life filled with satisfaction and success, I suggest that you bust some ass and develop your expertise in something. Hopefully something that you love. Eat it, sleep it, breathe it, read about it until your eyes bleed. Talk about it. Challenge your assumptions. Be bold and go out there and make predictions and stake your claim and get noticed. Don’t pretend to be an expert and don’t you dare go calling yourself one. Prove it. Let your work speak louder than your resume. If you’re doing the right things, your CV is searchable and thus, demonstrable.
Yesterday, I participated in a workshop on crisis communications. I was in a room full of communications professionals. For most of them, communications was their full-time job. (For me, it’s only a part of what I do.) We were handed a crisis scenario and told to come up with a plan. I was nervous. I felt I didn’t have enough information. I didn’t know any of the people I was working with, and in fact was only introducing myself as the assignment was being handed out. I wanted to analyze, to hold back, to make notes and re-organize. Admittedly, I sometimes favor a defensive strategy, (nerd metaphor alert) fortifying my castle and preparing for the siege rather than scorching the earth and searching for plunder. But I saw a lack of leadership in my group and I decided I had might as well go out of my comfort zone and step up. I took the reigns, and started organizing everyone’s contributions. I wrote up a list of action items and divided it into categories (internal plan and external messages). Sensing that the pressure was off of them, the group turned to me to be the spokesman as each team presented their approach.
When I was finished, the next group that went started out by saying, “We came to many of the same conclusions you did, though we couldn’t articulate them nearly as well…” It felt good. I liked knowing I had command of the room, for just a few minutes. Like people were listening to me because I knew what I was talking about. I saw the presenters smiling at me and nodding, like when a teacher is particularly proud of a student. The woman running the workshop stopped me at the end to compliment me and thank me for my contribution.
My initial inclination had been to hang back quietly out of the worry that I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t up to the task. I usually have very good instincts, and so I tend to listen to them. But this instinct in particular has never done anything for me but keep me from achieving the things I really want. So I’ve learned to stop listening to it. And now I’m getting things done. I’m earning those little successes that build your confidence and make it easier to take a risk the next time. Everybody needs those. On the road to becoming a champion, you can afford a few losses as long as you rack up enough wins.
So my question to you is: are you ready to be an expert? To do outstanding work? To accomplish things – small and big – instead of just talking about doing it?
If not, what’s holding you back?

I read your blog on the weekend! As usual, great post, Steve. My friend in Korea, and I were talking about this on a day when we were both feeling really defeated. Most of the people I worked with in Korea were there because the American job market had failed them… Or (I think you might agree, since I too share your feelings on entitlement) they realized that their degrees meant absolutely nothing with out anything to back it up. I think that a certain amount of frustration over this is okay, but too many people in our generation spend more time being frustrated and less time actually doing something about it. I’m really happy with the way you wrote this, because it reminded me how I felt after that conversation with my friend. She gave up on her lifelong goals, because she felt there was no way to compete with so much talent out there. But when I heard her say that, I thought: “I’m not giving up. I will just have to work harder.” While most people around me were complaining about how it’s so hard to get a job back home, but then going out to get plastered every single night. I spent my free time studying Korean. (My job recruiter and several foreign friends who were veteran teachers had told me not to bother, because it was too hard.) In less than two years, I was translating a tour for a friend of mine at a museum that didn’t offer an English speaking guide. I also joined an international orchestra and choir to keep my music skills sharp while I explored other interests I had been putting off. Now, I’m home and getting my plans for the future in line. I don’t get discouraged by the talent out there. It intimidates me, but it also motivates me to try harder. When someone tells me something is impossible, or too difficult to bother with, I become a ferocious in my effort to perform better.
Keep up the hard work Steve. You have the genetic material for brilliance. With continued hard work, I’m sure that you’ll not only reach, but exceed your goals.
Liz,
Thanks for reading on the weekend! And thanks for sharing your experience. That’s awesome. I love every single story where someone is told they can’t do something and they go and do it anyway. And I didn’t know that your Korean was that good. That’s amazing. Good for you!
At one point in her life, my wife was a single mom, was going to school full time, and was teaching herself DNS and BIND so that she could get into the IT industry and pull herself out of the situation she was in. She’s always worked so hard, and has been an inspiration to me.
I haven’t always worked hard. I’ve got a lazy streak a mile wide. But part of that is, I think, due to the fact that I didn’t believe I could really accomplish anything worthwhile. And if you convince yourself you’re going to fail, or that you have an excuse for not succeeding (so you can’t be blamed for your failure) then you will never really try.
I can’t say what changed in my head. Maybe it was going through a lot of hard times. Maybe it was being in a situation where I was seriously having a hard time feeding my family and was worried we were going to be out on the street. Maybe I just grew up. But now I look back at the way I used to think and I don’t really get it.
I still have plenty of insecurities. I wonder about certain jobs that other people think I can tackle and I think are too big for me. But growth is a perpetual thing. The biggest thing is to do what you said – just keep working harder, and you’ll be able to do the things you want.
I really think insecurity is one of the most significant ingredients of success. When you think you’re the shit, you’re not going to be constantly working to take it to the next level. When you worry that you’re going to fall short, or you need affirmation, or you’re a perfectionist when you look at your own work and see all the ways it could be better, then you’re going to rock it without even realizing it. Complacency is for everyone else.